LOVE has its moments of greatness and devastation, it’s so much easier to love when love is great and feels right. It’s like pulling teeth when things are in a downward spiral. We want to give up and look for the same love in a different place from a different person, because we just want the greatness of love. We want that old thing back… Love is never described as being work, but always related to hurt and hard. That’s because it is far from being work. Love is just that, LOVE… Relationships are what require work, it gets hard and sometimes they have their moments of hurt. Love gets implemented into that, because we tend to love the other person in the relationship. When the relationship is sour we associate the love being sour as well. Getting through the rough times in relationships take effort, work, and dedication from those involved. The hardest part of doing this is actually seeing the positives about your mate. When you only want to be mad, teaching or coaching yourself to decipher if your emotions are justified with the issue at hand.
“Remembering the things and reasons that made you fall in love with that person in the first place.”
War in relationships can mean not speaking to each other for longer periods than necessary. Giving each other more time and space when you should really be providing each other more quality time, company, and comfort. More love, communication, and understanding. Revisiting the problem and getting down to the root cause. We choose not to love our companion when we are at war, the reason for that is all we are able to focus on is the words that were said. How they pierced our souls, it begins to make us wonder if that’s really how they feel? Why are we still here if things are so bad (right now)We know what we have done wrong but yet in still we point the finger at the other person. We look to blame and say who is wrong and who is right, when we should be admitting our faults and communicating to understand ourselves and each other. There are times when things happen and it seems impossible to see the positive in our mate. Sometimes we are unable to release and get the happiness and positivity back. Unaware that we have not completely let the negativity out. We have tried to do the things that calm us, the things that remind us of why we love them and why we chose to continue to love them…. Sometimes, yes sometimes those postivie things that are known to work, do not work when we need them to the most. These moments will happen and that is perfectly okay, just don’t give up on the love of your life because of this. There will be ups and downs in relationships, when LOVE feels like WAR… Someone, one of you will have to waive the flag of truce…..
Find out why the war began, figure out why you agreed for the war to happen and what was your reason for fighting back, was it worth it, and the part that puts the cherry on top….What did you BOTH learn or SOLVE, what have you both accomplished in your relationship? Love during war usually does not result in a good outcome, neither side is focused on growing together. One wants to win and the other wants to prove that they did not back down.
During your wars remember that only love can calm an angry beast. Only love can deliver patience, only love can wipe away your doubts, and only positivity can quiet the negativity. It is so hard to LOVE during WAR but you will be glad your heart was stronger than your ego and your mind when you gaze into each others eyes once more. When he holds you in his arms again and when she caressing your soul again.
We can SHARE Love not war, le us fight together against our wars…