Normally everyone hears me and reads my words of saying, “Love yourself first and others will love you too!” Others will love you even more and there are times that I have said that if you struggle with loving yourself then others will struggle with loving you as well. Now to a certain extent this is very true, here is how:
People, most people actually do love you just as much as you love yourself. People, most people treat you how you allow them and how you treat yourself. Some of us even handle you with care depending on the way you handle and carry yourself.
BUTTTttttttttt, Guess What!!!????
Come here, lean in a little closer I want to whisper a secret to you….
“There are some very wonderfully amazing people out there who are able to love you even when you don’t love you.”
My now husband taught me this and to be honest I’ve been challenged on multiple occasions in my life to love someone if not many when they are not even aware that they actually can and should love themselves. I remember one time in the #FindingMe Facebook Group someone asked, “is it possible to love someone through their pain?” I fought blow for blow saying YES! It is very possible! Now you know there were and are those who beg to differ, however let me tell you another OUT LOUD SECRET. You see we do not see ourselves the way others see us. So that’s a major factor of someone else loving us more than we love ourselves already. There are things that people naturally love about us. You could be the very person who is hiding their pain with a smile and you are giving another person a reason to smile by showing your strength. You could be that person who has a natural light about them… you are the beacon they need to keep striving. These people love you more than your love yourself because you may not be aware how valuable you are as an INDIVIDUAL PERSON to them. My husband is a constant breath of fresh air on a daily basis, even when I am mad at him he still is able to give to me what I sometimes struggle with giving myself. That is just one of the things he is able to love about me that I am not always able to love about myself. People can be attracted to your pain because as humans we can sense your hurt and we naturally like to help and heal others as I have also stated before. This typically happens because a person has traveled that road whether they have faced the problem you are currently facing or not. These people know the emotions you face and they know the struggle to get up and face the world on a daily basis when you are not capable of #SelfLove….
THESE PEOPLE WILL CONTINUE TO LOVE YOU THROUGH YOUR OWN STRUGGLE OF #SelfLove….
Allow this people to love you through this, don’t push them away. You do not need to be completely alone because that makes it worse never better.
“Love requires love, and most times it takes another person to love you when you do not love you.”